THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FRIENDS AND ACQUAINTANCES

Thought comes to mind to share this article, that I have read recently about friends and acquaintances. I think many people confused what is the diff. between F and A. It says there that people whom you know for quite a length of time, hang out together regularly, and chatting often are those people whom you can consider to call as friends. While acquaintances are those people who you meet for a shorter time and only sometimes. No communication involve, or phone coversation regularly. As we all know that amongst of our friends there is always someone that we can call best friend. Best friend is tough to find, as the saying goes... If you have two friends in your lifetime, you're lucky but if you have one really good friend, you're more than lucky! Another saying says....A best friend is like a four leaf clover, very hard to find and extremely lucky to have".
I have been thinking about why we make friends and what friendship means to me? I came across this article saying about friendship... A friend ....means that they are there no matter what happens. They are willing to listen and offer advice, when possible. They are kind, gentle and trustworthy. You can share anything with them. They are able to keep secrets. They won’t judge you for what you have said. They will like you for who you are/accept you for who you are. A friend won’t try to change who you are. Even if you get into an argument, they will forgive you. A friend is someone that you can go and hang out with. A person that you can show your feelings with (example… crying). Friends are an important part of growth and life in general. Friendship is important and I am now finding out just how important it is. But all the things above is hard to follow, we as human being we all have likes and deslikes, sinsitivity, own life styles and most of all pride, and that's normal. I do admit that If I don't like someone, I can't force myself to like her. If there's somebody that don't like me, I won't force her to like me either, we all have choices I should say.
It's really hard to find a friend that you can call, BEST FRIEND...Living in a world filled with deceit and betrayal makes it hard for us to trust, therefore making it even harder for us to build friendships. Every time you look up, you see backstabbing unforgivable situations going on around you, or you've probably been through it yourself. Life is all about taking risks because nothing is guaranteed to any of us. How can you tell if a friend is really a friend?Are you being supported or renounced? When times get rough, everyone needs someone to lean on whether it is for emotional, mental or financial support. To be a friend and to have friends is one of the noblest goals for which we can aim. Friendship is complex and has many facets, but it certainly exhibits the following five attributes: Friendship means understanding and being understood... Friendship means affirming and being affirmed... Friendship means accepting and being accepted... Friendship means helping and being helped... Friendship means forgiving and being forgiven. Again to forgive is hard esp. if the damaged was really bad. I don't say that I can't forgive a friend if she does something bad to me, am sure I can forgive her, but it depends on how much the pain she caused me. I would admit that I had so many broken friendships in the past, and I only have one very best friend that I could really call best. Through out of our friendships we manage to keep it smooth and strong. We shared happiness, laughter and sorrows, and all our secrets to each other that we shared are remain safe and lock. I have known this friend when I was working in Singapore. She is truly an amazing friend, we do have so many things in common. We sometimes have misunderstandings, but that helps to make our friendship stronger. I had experienced a bad friendships when I was in HK, maybe because of the environment. It is sad to think that most of my friendships I had built in HK, broke down because of money matters. I had 5 closest friends in HK w/c I've thought whom I could trust with, but I was totally wrong, because in times of their difficulties, they all came to me for help, and put me on a terrible debt. But honestly speaking, I didn't have any regrets knowing them I have learnt a lot when it comes to friendship. One very important thing that I would want to say is, if you do something good or help your friend in anyways, don't expect any return and don't think as debt of gratitude or ( utang na loob) because this a terrible thing to think. Do good things to your friends from the bottom of your heart that makes you happy sincerely. As things are uncontrollable, when time comes that your friendship broke down, you have something good to look back, and I can tell you, it always put a smile on your face. It's really a bad idea, when you do or give something to your friends, and you would expect the same thing she give you in return. Lastly, I value all my friends, as friendship is important to me, I will confess that there are some things that I don't really like to some of my friends, and I am shy to hang out with them, because of our life style differences.